The other day I read a feature about role reversal in marriages — how the highly qualified woman takes on the mantle of the sole breadwinner and the man dons the apron and minds the house and kids. It went on to quote statistics about how this trend is heralding happy marriages and how the rate of divorce has dropped because of this trend as compared to the 70s when women had a larger share of housework and also held down jobs outside their homes.
I am always suspicious of ‘studies’ that are conducted on ridiculously small sample sizes to be of any significance, but my point here is different:
How can something that has come a full circle be the answer to a problem?
While it is a good thing that women have the power to bargain and get what they want from a relationship, doesn’t it create inequity in reverse? The relationship is bound to run into rough weather sooner or later since the issue here is of control; if it was the man earlier, it is the woman now who is in control.
This is akin to the reservation issue. In order to correct a social inequality of the forward castes holding the cards, this method was adapted. Now it has come to such a state that the backward castes are holding all the cards and the others have next to nothing in many states. Is this some kind of karmic justice?
What is required is a via media, whereby both the partners get equal justice, in every term of the word.